NOEMAYA

Children aren’t happy because they have toys and can play. They get to play because they are already happy. For them, happiness doesn’t need a reason; it’s rather a spontaneous state, and that keeps them in playfulness. But for us adults, we need reasons! We must have accomplished something, or be identified with a socially admired construct in our head, a good job, money, beauty, etc.. in order to experience happiness. If we have nothing extraordinary going for us, we can’t give ourselves permission to feel the bliss in our heart. And in fact, if all is normal and nothing wrong around us, we look for reasons to punish and deprive ourselves of experiencing our own bliss, and there’s always something more that we can do. 

It’s in fact the very curious idea in our head, that bliss needs reason and permission, that keeps us in negativity and anxiety, mainly because it puts us in a state of constant seeking for things outside of ourselves, for reasons to label ourselves good, and often we find reasons to label ourselves bad. 

What’s the antidote to this situation? It’s climbing up the same rope that got us down here: practice and repetition. We are in this state because we internalized and frequently repeated to ourselves, often unconsciously, that “I’m not allowed to enjoy this moment until all things are done and all conflicts around me resolved, that I must solve and please everything and everyone before I can be serene and happy.”  Recognize that this is just a script that somehow infiltrated your operating system. It doesn’t matter how. Just debug and upgrade by identifying the script when it’s running and catch yourself looking for reasons, whether it’s for being good or bad. Then take a deep breath and look away from the script into the now, and tell yourself “I give myself permission to experience my own bliss right now. It’s mine unconditionally and I don’t need any reason to tap into it.” Remember that you ended up here because you told yourself the exact opposite of this, and it worked! So, replace the script and brainwash yourself with it, and there’s no reason it won’t work. So, embrace your bliss; it’s all yours.