The Leash Made of Silk: The psychology of manipulative care & kindness

The most dangerous manipulation isn’t loud or cruel, it’s gentle. It hides behind smiles and small favors, pretending to care while quietly asking for approval in return. This kind of kindness doesn’t come from love, it comes from fear, the fear of not being seen. It gives to be noticed, not to nourish. True kindness doesn’t need witnesses or repayment; it flows freely because it’s full. … More The Leash Made of Silk: The psychology of manipulative care & kindness

Living in the Pause: An Attitude of Playfulness Toward Change

All real growth begins in the gap between stimulus and response. Not by controlling what happens, but by choosing how we meet it. Playfulness is what keeps that gap open—because play doesn’t trigger resistance the way protest does. It sneaks past the defenses of habit and makes change possible. … More Living in the Pause: An Attitude of Playfulness Toward Change