The Leash Made of Silk: The psychology of manipulative care & kindness

The most dangerous manipulation isn’t loud or cruel, it’s gentle. It hides behind smiles and small favors, pretending to care while quietly asking for approval in return. This kind of kindness doesn’t come from love, it comes from fear, the fear of not being seen. It gives to be noticed, not to nourish. True kindness doesn’t need witnesses or repayment; it flows freely because it’s full. … More The Leash Made of Silk: The psychology of manipulative care & kindness

The Play of Masks: How to Drop the Mask of Behavior and Love Your Suffering

All behavior is a mask shielding us from the feelings we fear most. Unmasking begins by setting the behavior aside so we can finally see what it was covering—then facing those very fears. From avoidance we move to tolerance, from tolerance to acceptance, and finally into love, where suffering itself is transformed. … More The Play of Masks: How to Drop the Mask of Behavior and Love Your Suffering

Painting Your Best Self: Transforming Affirmations into Action

The true, creative affirmation is not the affirmation of the tongue but the affirmation of action, for only through action can things be brought into existence. 
Just for today, I’ll visualize how my best version would be acting today, and I act as if I’m already established in that version. … More Painting Your Best Self: Transforming Affirmations into Action

Embrace Your Bliss; you don’t need permission for it

Then take a deep breath and look away from the script into the now, and tell yourself “I give myself permission to experience my own bliss right now. It’s mine unconditionally and I don’t need any reason to tap into it.” Remember that you ended up here because you told yourself the exact opposite of this, and it worked! So, replace the script and brainwash yourself with it, and there’s no reason it won’t work. So, embrace your bliss; it’s all yours. … More Embrace Your Bliss; you don’t need permission for it

Of Fratricide, Love, & Prayer: Pleas of a Restless Heart

To express and realize the desire of the heart, one must call the beloved into presence with one’s all being. All organs, subtle and gross, must call on the beloved: the heart by prayer, the tongue by speaking the truth, the eyes by seeing beauty, the ears by active listening, and the body by selfless service. When all of a man’s being calls on the same thing, that’s well-being and harmony; when there’s divergence and each organ wants something different, that’s disease. … More Of Fratricide, Love, & Prayer: Pleas of a Restless Heart

The Child & The Walking Dead

There used be a child content in love and abundance, for whom one idea was enough, and that was his concrete Reality. But this modern semblance of a man, he needs one too many ideas, identifications, positions with regard to everything, swarming in podcasts and debates, only to satisfy an insatiable sense of belonging that is only truly satisfied by what is buried alive within himself. … More The Child & The Walking Dead

How to use our inner chaos to lead a better life and become who we’re meant to be

To move out of the looming chaos, we can pay attention to the loudest call that’s drawing our attention to itself; in most cases it’s very simple and is something in our most immediate environment and time-zone. Perhaps cleaning something up, writing the next blog post, renewing the car’s annual inspection, etc.. It’s only when our immediate environment (both mental and physical) is in a state of relative order that we can get a more stable long-term vision of our life and the next right step toward it. When we make our day a relatively clean day, not only do we allow the next layer of possibilities to shines forth, we also create more positive emotions through these meaningful actions, emotions that are conducive to more meaningful actions that can exponentially improve our situation. … More How to use our inner chaos to lead a better life and become who we’re meant to be

Practicing Honesty

To take the practice of honesty to a higher level, we can be less selective about people’s imperfections and recognize that they have their own process. It’s more noble to give someone time with their imperfections and let them learn from their experiences than try to fix them. … More Practicing Honesty